We get it—using your hand to masturbate can feel like a Renaissance-era route to orgasm and isn’t nearly as efficient as using a sex toy . But..
.maybe you can’t find your toy charger. Maybe you’re staying at a relative’s house and the telltale buzz of your wand vibe isn’t doing you any favors in terms of discretion.
Or maybe you just want to get more in touch (literally) with your body. Whatever your situation may be, we’re not giving our hands nearly as much credit as they deserve. No shade to sex toys—they’re amazing—but knowing how to go toy-free when it comes to masturbation is a crucial skill.
“Sex toys are like taking a high-speed train to the office. It’s fast and it delivers,” says Tara Struyk, cofounder and editor-in-chief at Kinkly.com .
“But there’s still value in walking there, even if you don’t have the time or energy to do it every day. And just like walking, it also means you might notice things along the way that you’d miss entirely on the high-speed train.” Masturbating without a toy can result in a better understanding of personal sexual needs and desires, and according to Joy Berkheimer PhD, Chief Sexologist at SXWA , it can cultivate a healthier relationship with one’s body when approached with a positive mindset.
Plus, with your hands, you can adjust your experience quickly and easily. Want it slower, harder, more stop-and-go? You have total control—no desperately fumbling with buttons to get to the right setting ju.
