Dear Pastor, I am a regular reader of your column. I have been doing so since I was a child. I have enjoyed reading the stories, and I have learnt a lot over the past years just by reading them.
I am a 25-year-old woman. I work very hard. I don't pay rent, and I have one son, who is my lifeline.
A year ago I met a man who is also 25 years old. We exchanged numbers and by communicating with each other, we became very close until we started dating. After we were together for one year, he took me to meet his parents.
He also introduced me to some of his friends. Being with him wasn't bad, because his grandmother and father loved me. After a while, he started to act very weird and I suspected that he might have another woman.
We started to argue a lot, and all our arguments were over foolishness. His mother became concerned over his treatment to me. His attitude towards me suddenly became bad.
His mother scolded him one day and told him that she didn't love how he was treating me, and he should allow me to go instead of treating me badly, because I didn't deserve what he was doing to me. His father got married a month after his mother spoke to him. I was invited to the wedding.
I was beautiful but at the wedding, my boyfriend didn't look at me even once. One of his aunts was there and she observed his behaviour. I did not know that she was looking at him.
After the wedding, his aunt scolded him about how he treated me, and asked him whether he would allow this foolish behaviour to tear us apart. His aunt even told him that I am his wife. I felt very bad knowing that I love this man and every day I was wishing that I did not meet him.
My son keeps asking for him. I often wish I could wipe him from his memory. This man doesn't have children, but he has always treated my son well.
I do not know if he likes my son. It has been a few months now since we have ended our relationship. He cursed me and blocked me on his phone.
From that day, I have prayed to God that he would not allow my heart to bleed again like it is now. I wish him the very best in life. If there is one thing I know for sure, it is that I will never try to reach out to him.
The only break I take from a relationship is break-up. He wanted to leave the relationship, so I allowed him to do so. Now I am focusing on myself and my child, but in real life I am still hurting deeply, knowing I would do anything just for this man to be alright.
He deceived me, because I wasn't the only girl he had a relationship with. I am awaiting your response. Initial Withheld Dear Writer, I am sure that you have made mistakes in this relationship, but this man wanted to move on.
You have not said that you know for sure that he had another woman. You suspect that he did because of his attitude towards you. Whatever the reason this man left you, you have taken it well.
I hope the good Lord will bring into your life a good man. Take good care, I will be praying for you. Pastor.
