Dear Pastor, I am 36 and I have never been married, but my brother-in-law introduced me to a man who is divorced. My brother-in-law told me that he is wealthy. He is a white guy.
He took me all over New York and to some very fancy places to eat. He questions me a lot, but I didn't question him. Every evening we went to somewhere new.
He took me out seven times in the 10 days that I was in America. He is 55. Two days before I was preparing to leave, he took me shopping.
I asked my sister to come with us; she assisted me in choosing the things that I wanted. When I told her that things were too expensive, she said the man has money so he will pay for them. I took dresses for church and for partying, and three lovely pair of shoes.
When I told the man that we were finished shopping, he said, "Are you sure?". He said "Go for whatever you want", so I got two sets of wigs. I went to bed with this man.
He said he wanted to know how it would feel to make love with a black girl. We spent all night at a hotel and during the night, he asked me if I would marry him and I told him that I would consider it. I wanted to talk to my brother-in-law about it because he knows the man very well.
My brother-in-law told me that I shouldn't hesitate to marry him, and that would be the easiest way for me to get out of poverty. I called the man and told him that I would marry him, but I would love to see where he lives and he said, "Sure." He picked me up and took me to where he lives, but we did not go into the house because he said two of his children were there and it was not time to introduced me to them.
It was a beautiful house. When he was taking me back to my sister, he said to me that I would have to sign a prenuptial agreement. I didn't even understand what that meant; he explained it to me.
He said he would have to draw up a legal contract so that I would agree not to claim on anything he had before we got married. However, what we acquire together after we are married, if we have to get a divorce, that would be divided between us. He said many things.
It was the first time he was saying so much about himself. He took me to have something to eat and that night my sister and my brother-in-law discussed the matter of the prenuptial agreement. My sister said that I should not allow what this man said to hinder me, because what he has belongs to him.
So we are getting married soon. He came to Jamaica and was here for just three days. He stayed in a particular hotel.
All eyes were on us. Before he left, he gave me an engagement ring, so my friends and relatives know that I am engaged, but many of them did not meet him. What do you think about an prenuptial agreements, and how would that work with his children? Please explain to me how you see it.
G.S. Dear G.
S., If you have come to love this man and you believe that he loves you, and you are not marrying him because of what he has, you should not be reluctant in sighing a prenuptial agreement. Greedy women may not want to sign such an agreement, but men who want to protect themselves and their children who they have fathered before going into new relationships would insist that such an agreement be signed.
It seems to me that you have met a wealthy man. Your brother-in-law knows him well and he would protect you. Your sister was correct when she said you should not hesitate in signing the contract because what the man has is not yours.
I want to wish you well. Be careful. You haven't said anything about whether your parents are alive.
I hope that they will like the person who is to become your husband. I wish both of you well. Pastor.
