A woman who's expecting another child is facing the difficult decision of sharing the news with her mother-in-law . The expectant mom shared on Reddit that her past experiences have dissuaded her to do so this time around. In a detailed post, she divulged: "With my first [baby] mother-in-law 's response to being told baby's name was - 'Oh that's nice.
'" She then explained her initial thought process: "At the time I was still lost in the fog and just figured that was fine, she had a busy week, basically any excuse to make myself feel better about being brushed off." 'My sister says I can't use my favorite baby name - I'm heartbroken' 'I sprayed my neighbor with a water hose - People say she had it coming' But things weren't better during her second pregnancy. She recalled: "Baby two - first at pregnancy announcement sister-in-law stomped out of the room and mother-in-law went after her.
" Her feelings were hurt: "When mother in law came back she didn't say anything about my pregnancy for the rest of the night - again I tried to brush it off but it HURT. We told them the gender weeks later." The mother-in-law's reaction wasn't satisfying when they revealed the baby's name: "Then told them baby's name, the first thing out of her mouth was 'Why do you keep picking names I can't spell.
'" Despite their simplicity, the grandma-to-be couldn't handle her grand children's names. "None of my children's names are complicated," the mom shared. Thus, considering her previous experiences, she'd rather not share the news now: "Now we're trying for baby three.
I don't want to tell his parents anything. They haven't cared about my kids. They haven't cared when I've been pregnant.
They've only cared that they get a baby to hold for a bit then are ambivalent about my kids for weeks to months at a time." There's a Catch-22 as her husband adores his folks, leaving her clueless about sharing her decision: "No idea how I'm going to tell hubs this..
..he loves his parents so much and has been chasing validation his whole life.
" In the end, she received advice from fellow Reddit users on the matter. DON'T MISS..
. 'My sister says I can't use my favorite baby name - I'm heartbroken' 'I sprayed my neighbor with a water hose - People say she had it coming' 'I hate my father-in-law and I don’t want to name my baby after him' One social media user remarked: "Some grandparents don't want to be much involved. That's ok.
That's better than the ones who want to take over and use your child as their do over baby. The comment about spelling was rude and I think addressing these in the moment is the best approach." In agreement, another user weighed in: "The complaints are an effort to control you and the baby.
The apathy comes when they can't get what they want so they deprive you of what they think you want. My in-laws hounded us after we picked my oldest's name. But my in-laws are so enmeshed it meant little to them to stomp that boundary.
" Another participant added: "Don't tell them anything and put a request to your hubby that he should only tell them things when they ask.. they don't make effort for you guys and your kids so why give them the privilege of keeping them updated.
" Another sentiment came from a user stating: "Forget about telling them about the baby, I'd be more concerned about getting your husband into therapy so he can stop traumatizing himself by chasing validation from people who are never going to give it to him because they don't give a shit about him.".
