I'm a sex therapist who's helped more than 3,000 couples: This is the real reason your man has gone off sex. Here's EXACTLY how to fix it and repair your relationship By DR STEPHEN SNYDER FOR THE DAILY MAIL Published: 01:37, 11 November 2024 | Updated: 01:41, 11 November 2024 e-mail View comments As one of New York's top sex therapists, I've treated more than 3,000 couples and individuals over the past 30 years. And over those decades I've noticed a seismic shift in habits.
The most pressing sexual issue of the 20th century was women lacking desire and turning down sex. The old 'Not tonight, dear, I have a headache' idea. But now, things have changed completely.
The most common dilemma for couples in long-term relationships today is men going missing in the bedroom. Perhaps HRT has boosted her libido just as he begins to feel the decline in testosterone that comes with age. Maybe he's got performance anxiety? Whatever the reason, at my practice I take phone calls from women all day long, saying: 'He never touches me any more.
We're like roommates!' How, they ask, can I persuade my partner to get it on again? What can I do? But that's the wrong approach. Women don't need another item on the chore list. The fact is, by the time we hit midlife, women are way ahead of men on all sorts of metrics that might affect sex in a relationship, and men need time to catch up.
We already know that women today tend to over-function in relationships. They're the ones who invest time and heads.
