Your child is trying to assert their independence and test boundaries, but it’s important to stay calm and let them know what is and isn’t acceptable for them to say A young teenager can appear to only see things from their own perspective. Photo: Picture posed/Getty Are your teenagers disrespectful and rude to you? I posted a Q&A reel on my Instagram recently, in which a mum had asked if it is normal for her 13-year-old daughter to be rude to and dismissive of her..