DEAR CAROLINE: I caught an STI at 59 after my husband left me. I'm so ashamed By Caroline West-meads For You Magazine Published: 08:01, 19 October 2024 | Updated: 08:01, 19 October 2024 e-mail View comments Q I am 59 and recently discovered that I have caught a sexually transmitted infection (fortunately treatable and I am recovering). I feel stupid and ashamed because it could be one of two men.
I lost a lot of confidence after my husband left me three years ago for another woman – I had put on so much weight that he said he didn’t fancy me any more. It was the worst time of my life, but it gave me the impetus to get in shape. So I changed my diet, started weight-training and yoga, and lost three stone.
It was wonderful to feel attractive again – and to get attention from men – and it went to my head. I started a relationship with one man from the gym, which was short-lived as he turned out to be seeing other women. However, at the same time, I also had a one-night stand when I went on holiday with girlfriends.
The problem is that I have no idea which man gave me the STI. I wouldn’t know how to contact the second man, but I know that I should tell the man from the gym, for his sake as well as to stop the risk of it spreading. I would never have behaved like this in the past and I am so embarrassed.
I am also worried that he will be angry. A I am relieved to hear that your sexually transmitted infection is treatable as STIs can be very serious – even fatal. It mus.
