Sometimes when we deal with difficult emotions, we seek validation from others to understand if what we are feeling is the right way to feel. But often, we need to validate our own emotions to let us know that our emotions are significant and valid. “If you’re someone who second guesses your emotional reactions, this may be because you were told you were overreacting as a child or told to feel differently in the moment.
As an adult, you now have the ability to validate your own emotions,” wrote Therapist Gianna LaLota.(Unsplash) Pause: instead of rushing through our emotions, we need to learn to take a pause and take a few deep breaths to calm the nervous system. (Unsplash) Notice the feeling: We should notice the emotions that we are feeling.
When we feel overwhelmed, we should observe the emotions to understand where they are coming from. (Freepik) Allow it: instead of running away from it or distracting ourselves from the emotion, we should let ourselves feel it completely. (Designecologist) Validate it: We should give ourselves permission to feel the way we want and should constantly assure ourselves that our emotions are valid.
(Unsplash) Remind yourself: We should remind ourselves that our emotions are based on our past experiences and trauma. We should resist the urge to justify our emotions and know that our emotions are valid, even when others do not understand. (Unsplash).
