Bride asks groom to uninvite 'work wife' from wedding after final straw at engagement party

A bride has taken issue with her husband-to-be's 'work wife', going as far as to suggest her fiancé uninvite her to their upcoming wedding."I (29F) am supposed to be marrying the love of my life (31M) in a few months," she told Reddit's 'Am I The A--hole' thread."We've been planning this wedding for over a year, and it's been a beautiful, but stressful, experience. But there's one person casting a shadow over everything, and that's my fiancé's 'work wife,' Lily (30F)," she shares.READ MORE: The cult Christmas item that sold out in 2023The bride then gives a little background, explaining that her fiancé and Lily have been friends and coworkers for around five years."At first, I was honestly relieved he had a good friend at work, especially since his job can be demanding and a bit isolating," she says."I tried to be the cool, understanding partner who wasn't bothered by how close they were."READ MORE: Desperate Housewives star quit 'dystopian' America"But over time, their bond became... well, it became something I just don't know how to handle," she continues.She says Lily has become a "huge part" of her fiancé's life."They text constantly, often late into the night about everything from work issues to little jokes," the bride says. "She knows things about him that I sometimes don't, and it stings to realise how much he turns to her for advice and laughs instead of me."My fiancé reassures me that they're just friends, that she's his 'work wife,' and that it's no big deal. But it feels like she's gotten so close that I'm sometimes the one on the outside looking in," she writes.As their wedding planning progressed, Lily began giving her opinions about the venue which she says "doesn't feel like him" and the flowers saying "he's never liked bright colours" and also said she could help the bride choose a wedding dress "he'd love."For a daily dose of 9honey, subscribe to our newsletter here."I tried to laugh it off, but it hurt more than I wanted to admit. Here I am planning my wedding, and I felt like I had to measure up to her view of who my fiancé is," she says.Everything came to a head at their recent engagement party. She says "it was supposed to be such a happy day.""But I kept noticing Lily glued to his side."The bride says she "tried to join their conversations, but every time, she'd bring up a work story or inside joke that left me feeling like a third wheel at my own engagement.""Then, in one of the worst moments, I walked up just as she was saying, 'You know, if you change your mind, you could always marry me instead.' My heart sank. I didn't know if she was joking or half-serious, but my fiancé laughed, brushing it off like it was no big deal," the bride explains.She couldn't let it go."I pulled my fiancé aside later that night and told him how inappropriate her comment was. He looked at me, surprised, and said I was 'taking it too seriously' and that Lily was 'just playing around.' I felt like I was going crazy, like maybe I was seeing something that wasn't there, but... how would anyone be okay hearing that from someone so close to their fiancé?" she asks.The last straw came towards the end of the night after Lily "had had a few drinks" and asked the bride if she was "really OK" with how close she had become with her fiancé.READ MORE: King Charles marks 76th birthday at 'surplus food festival'"She said something like, 'I mean, I can't imagine him with anyone else.' It felt like a knife to my chest. I wanted to scream, but instead, I just walked away. Later, I told my fiancé I didn't want her at our wedding, that it was too painful to have someone there who clearly saw herself as part of our relationship," the bride explains."He got defensive, saying I was overreacting and letting jealousy ruin a friendship he cherishes. He even implied that uninviting her would 'damage his reputation' at work, and now he's barely talking to me because he says I'm 'making him choose' between his best friend and his fiancée."The bride says she feels "hurt, small, and like my feelings don't matter.""My friends support me, but his friends think I'm overreacting and letting insecurity ruin our relationship," she says before asking if she is wrong to have asked him to uninvite Lily from their wedding."NTA but to be honest, it sounds like the two of them are having an emotional affair," one Redditer stated bluntly."Her comments are completely inappropriate and your fiancé's willingness to side with her and choose her over you is hugely concerning."Another suggested her fiancé and Lily are likely already having an affair.One Redditer explained: "He sees the situation as having to choose between the two women. He already puts his co-worker on the same plane as his fiancée; which means he is not committed to the fundamental premise of marriage, which is to forsake all others."He has zero concept of emotional boundaries and needs some schooling."Another said: "There will be nothing but pain for you as long as she is in his life in any capacity because she 100 per cent considers him hers first.""Her behaviour and comments are HIGHLY inappropriate and the fact he is giving her opinion ANY credence what-so-ever is highly problematic."One Redditer stated: "Girl. He already chose and he didn't pick you."FOLLOW US ON WHATSAPP HERE: Stay across all the latest in celebrity, lifestyle and opinion via our WhatsApp channel. No comments, no algorithm and nobody can see your private details.