Q: My wife and I have been getting a divorce for the past few years while living under the same roof still as we haven’t been able to afford to move out. We have one adult child who has moved out, so it’s just been the two of us in separate bedrooms for a while. We get on well and it has been amicable but, at the same time, it’s been frustrating that it’s been hard to move on since we live together and, in some ways, it feels like we are still married.
We are more like friends, but sometimes she asks me if I think there is any chance that we could get back together. I don’t want to rock the boat and make living together awkward after doing so much work to get to this place of friendship. But it seems like each time she feels down or has a few drinks, she brings it up, and I’ve started to feel awkward and not wanting to be around her when she is like this.
I can’t move out realistically for another year, and definitely don’t want us to get back together. How do I stop this feeling uncomfortable between us? Dr West replies: This is a difficult situation, and a frustrating one since a lot of options are made impossible or difficult due to factors beyond your control, such as the continued spiralling of the housing crisis beyond belief..
