I have been in a seven-year relationship with my partner. We do not have any children together and we are not legally married. I am 36 and he is 39 and I am at the point where I would like to get married and have my own child.
When we first got together, he was very much open to marriage and kids, but it seems that this has changed, even though he has not clearly expressed this to me. He says he is open to it, but that we do not have a support system since both of our parents are deceased and we would have to have a plan. Clearly, this is not something I can plan out like he would like.
As it pertains to marriage, in casual conversations we have on marriage, he does not really understand why people need to be married but will then say, “that does not mean we won’t get married.” But clearly seven years later I do not think he wants to. I am at the point of wanting to end this relationship no matter how much I love him because these are definitely things that I want, even though I do feel like kids may no longer be in the cards for me since I am getting older, and the clock is ticking.
I have not expressed that I want to end our relationship, because I don’t want to give him an ultimatum. Am I wrong for wanting to walk away? It’s possible that between the casual conversations and the unspoken ultimatum, there’s a lot of discussion that’s happening inside of both of your heads. It’s time to talk logistics, fears and wants.
What’s hard about this, of course, is .
