If you plan to host a large party , a restaurant can save you the effort of providing drinks and eats for a crowd. But how smoothly it goes comes down to planning and communication. And it all starts with a meeting.

Instead of making a reservation and hoping for the best, contact the manager between 2 p.m. and 4 p.

m., when most restaurants slow down, and hash out all the details. Better yet, go in — there's nothing like a captive audience.

There's a lot to discuss, so take copious notes about the seating arrangements, food and beverage details, and any extras they promise you, such as a birthday cake. Then, make sure you confirm the details during the meeting and then again a few days before the big event, including the answers to all the questions you asked the restaurant and all the info you gave them to ensure your party goes off without a hitch. What you need to ask the restaurant Party planning at a restaurant starts with seeing the space where they plan to put your table.

You don't want to end up outside if someone has allergies or have to take stairs if older guests might have difficulty. Adam Perhosky, director of sales and events at American Social Bar & Kitchen , also says, "This can help ensure that the setting matches the needs and preferences of your group." And if the reservation is for a celebration or special event, Perhosky advises asking about special offers or services, such as decorations or desserts.

You also need to ask questions about food that go bey.