Earlier this month, Victoria Monét fans were ecstatic to learn that the “ ” singer is preparing to release a of her album, . But while that news was welcome, today, she followed it with some less pleasant news, confirming her breakup with longtime boyfriend John Gaines, with whom she shares one child. In a statement , she explained why she waited nearly ten months before making the announcement, while also asking fans to “be gentle” with the former couple and their daughter.

You can read the full statement below. With good intentions, we honestly have been avoiding a formal statement about something as natural and as personal as love. We originally preferred to keep this out of the public (as announcing this publicly is sure to make pain resurface) but it is becoming more and more difficult to suppress.

Yes, we have seen all of the questions and extremely false accusations of our origin story and we have thought long and hard about whether we owed it to anyone to explain where we are as we heal, since we understand how social media can magnify the truth or run far with untruths. Ultimately we decided to be open and address it in hopes to put a period on the question marks for the sake of our healing process. We spent the last 10 months trying to respectfully and privately navigate the fact that we are no longer in a relationship.

Though we still completely adore and respect each other, we are not a couple anymore. There was no infidelity, toxic behavior nor drama. W.