Recently, on the Am I The Asshole subreddit, a woman went viral after asking if she is an asshole for telling her sister she wasn't allowed to bring food to the family's Thanksgiving meal. "This year, I’m hosting Thanksgiving. Since I’m responsible for putting it all together, I wanted to keep the menu consistent so that people could actually enjoy a cohesive meal.
I thought I’d avoid drama by asking her to bring non-food items instead — like wine, soda, or even some flowers. I explained to her (very kindly, I thought) that I just wanted to make things easy and streamlined, and I’d handle the main dishes. But she didn’t take it well.
" "She got offended and told me I was being 'controlling' and 'shutting her out' of the family gathering. She then accused me of making her feel inadequate and said that Thanksgiving is about everyone contributing, not me deciding what’s 'acceptable.' I told her that everyone appreciates her effort but that she could contribute in other ways and still be part of it.
She doubled down and said she’s bringing her 'famous' green bean casserole whether I like it or not." She also followed up with an update, saying, "After our last conversation, my sister was being pretty cagey about what she planned to make, so I reached out to my mom, hoping she could help smooth things over. Instead, she got defensive, saying I was 'overthinking' and that it was just one dish.
I told her I wasn’t sure it was just one dish anymore, especially after h.