If we go through a couple of weeks when we don’t have sex, Kyle starts to lose the plot I’m normally the talker, but in the bedroom I really struggle using language around sex. Whereas Kyle, who’s normally the quieter one, likes to have conversations about what he’d like to try, and what I would like. When we first met, six years ago, we lived a few hundred miles apart.
Kyle wanted us to talk each other into an orgasm over the phone. I’d say: “I don’t know what to say to you. Everything sounds corny or like a porno.
” I just couldn’t find the words. Still, I’ve always been a highly sexual person. My previous relationship, with the father of my children, never had the sexual intensity I knew I was capable of experiencing, so I wanted to be with someone I was physically compatible with.
When Kyle and I met I could feel my uterus doing somersaults. Before we lived together, we could have sex five times in a day. Our sex is all pretty vanilla but he likes to mix things up by varying the tempo or just the places we’re doing it.
We usually end up having sex most days. If we go through a couple of weeks when we don’t, Kyle starts to lose the plot. He would have sex every day if he could.
When I started going through menopause, I could tell he was suffering because he needs that sexual release, but I was losing my libido. I was getting hot flushes, my hair was thinning, I had body aches and felt bloated. It was hard for me to feel sexual.
I’m now on hormone r.