From difficulties with intimacy, memory and communication to changing sexual behaviours, dementia will put a strain on even the strongest couples. A diagnosis can bring up issues you might never have anticipated. So can you care for your relationship while caring for your partner? Understanding intimacy: “People may find that they have lost interest in certain aspects of physical or emotional intimacy after a dementia diagnosis,” says Alzheimer’s Society’s Dr Tim Beanland .
“If this happens, trying new hobbies or activities together or dedicating a day to having quality time to reestablish their romantic connection is important. “Equally, some find their interest in sex increases during the early stages of their illness. If only one partner’s interest in sex or physical intimacy has increased, both partners need to discuss this to find out how what they feel will work for them.
“Carers who have started helping with personal care such as washing, bathing or dealing with incontinence may find it awkward to do this as well as being someone's sexual partner. They may feel put off the idea of sex as a result, which can be isolating for both people in the relationship, as well as causing feelings of guilt. “It is important that all activity is consensual and respectful, and that neither partner feel pressured into anything they do not want to.
” Tricky behaviour: “Dementia can affect a person’s personality and habits, which may lead to changes in what they do.