DEAR ABBY, When my husband, "Sid," was a young adult, his mother died by suicide. A few years later, when his maternal grandparents died, his mother's two siblings inherited his grandparents' estate. Other family members have commented that it seemed wrong for Sid and his sister to be disinherited from their mother's share of the estate.
Because Sid and his sister were young adults, they didn't have enough confidence or support to question their aunt and uncle. Their father was out of the picture. Forty years later, this is still a source of pain for Sid and his sister.
They feel they were intentionally disinherited, while their closest relatives act like nothing is wrong. Is there a way to approach the family to resolve this pain? -- SAD FOR SID IN NEVADA DEAR SAD, I strongly suspect that that ship sailed 40 years ago. However, I am not a lawyer.
Your husband and his sister should ask an attorney who specializes in wills, estates and trusts this question to see what exactly happened back then and if anything can be done now to change it. DEAR ABBY, I will turn 18 in six months. I know I should be happy, but to be completely honest with you, I'm scared to become an adult.
I don't feel I'm ready to grow up and leave my childhood behind. What should I do? What CAN I do? -- UNHAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR UNHAPPY, What, precisely, are you afraid of? All people do not mature at the same rate. It takes some individuals until they are well over the age of 21 to assume the responsibilities of.