Dear Anna, I’m a 28-year-old woman who has recently ended a long-term relationship. Over the past five years, I’ve gone from one relationship to another, hardly giving myself any time to breathe and truly be on my own. My last relationship ended about three months ago, and for the first time, I’m consciously deciding not to rush into another one.
However, I’m finding this period quite challenging. Most of my friends are in relationships, getting engaged or even starting families, and it’s difficult not to feel left behind. I keep hearing that this is the time for self-discovery and personal growth, but I’m not sure where to start or how to embrace being single without feeling lonely or like I’m missing out.
I’ve always identified as part of a pair, and the thought of building a life that’s fulfilling on its own, independent of a romantic partner, is daunting. How do I begin to embrace the single life and see it as an opportunity rather than a setback? – Seeking Solitude and Strength Dear SSS, Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge the feelings you’re experiencing; they’re valid and quite common after the end of significant relationships. Transitioning to single life, especially after back-to-back relationships, can indeed be daunting, crappy and full of FOMO (fear of missing out).
But! It can also be incredibly rewarding. This time is a unique (and also very common) opportunity for self-discovery, growth and building a fulfilling life that resonates .