Just like any other form of expression, you can choose to be sensual on any apparatus, dance form, or whatever you do A few months ago, I posted a photo of myself doing a pretty tough pose on the pole—I was so proud of it, especially since I’d only been doing pole for less than a year. I also proudly shared it with a group of people I held dear and knew since high school. A few hours later, I received a message from someone I had once considered a friend, padded with pleasantries and disclaimers that she was supportive of my hobby.
And then came the keyword: however. “However, we feel this is inappropriate to post,” she said, because of its sexual nature. When I questioned why she (and apparently some other mystery people in the group who did not have the courage or kindness to approach me) thought it inappropriate, I received no answer.
I then went on a tirade about how there is nothing sexual about the pose, nothing sexual about the caption, and it only makes me question where this “inappropriate sexuality” was coming from—aside from the sexuality they projected onto it and the stigma they held. I ended my message by saying that I hope their ideas of women’s bodies and the ways we express ourselves heal someday, but it’s no longer my job to say anything further and said goodbye. Never forgetting the roots Pole dancing has roots we must respect in sex work.
The sport and art that we delve into now, with its different styles like contemporary pole, pole fitn.