BENGALURU: One of the things new writers are told when they start submitting their manuscripts to publishers for their consideration is to value the rejections that they might get from agents and others in the process of trying to get published. Sure, there might be that awesome writer here and there whose first book might become a sensation that has everyone bidding over it, but for most writers, it is a series of big and small rejections, lots of rewrites and edits and more, before they get accepted. In the meantime, every ‘no’ matters – it is a big deal to even get a real ‘no ‘with enough details.
The details are important and when taken seriously, can really help the writer improve what they have to offer, or know where to take what they have written, or find the right audience for them in a different way, or even to stop writing and do something else. It is something like that with love as well. The first time we crush on someone and want to profess our love, we may just be the luckiest person in the world and have our love not just accepted, but reciprocated with great enthusiasm, and we could drive away into the sunset for a happily ever after, leaving everyone behind.
The scenario that is more likely is one where we don’t get anywhere with it and get rejected, maybe not outright but rejected all the same. Rejection stings, but we can handle it when it is to the point, offers something we can use or accept, and most of all, when it is offered with kindness .