My parents divorced a few years ago and my mom has been dating on and off since then. We live together in the same house so she isn’t alone, and as I’m still single, for now, it’s fine with me. Recently I realized she’s been seeing someone younger than her, who happens to be just a couple of years older than me.
We are both in our early 30s, so her boyfriend is an adult, but still. I even remembered we were at the same high school together. I made the discovery when I came home one day and found them making out on the couch.
They both greeted me, and he introduced himself before they went into the bedroom. The next day I woke up to find them sitting at the coffee table, holding hands, waiting for me to talk about their relationship. I want my mom to be happy, of course, and she did have me very young, but there’s still more than a dozen years between them.
And he’s my contemporary, not hers. I’m just not sure how I feel about all of this. Don’t label your mom a cougar just because she has found love with someone younger.
You didn’t say she was only dating younger men, or specifically looking for someone younger. I’m not a fan of labels. However, your feelings are valid.
No matter how old we get, our parents are older, another generation, and it doesn’t seem ‘normal’ for your mom to date one of your peers. I get it. On the other hand, if you fell in love with someone a decade older than you, would you squash your feelings because that person had a chi.