DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T accept the idea of having a “massage” from another man while my husband watches – but he is obsessed with it. I was hoping he’d forget about his fantasy in time. But no matter how much I try to put him off, he keeps coming back to it.
He actually wants to watch me getting the massage. And although he hasn’t spelled it out, I know in his imagination it leads to sex. The thought of being with another man while my husband watches is so bizarre to me.
It isn’t something I want to do and yet he keeps trying to engineer the situation. We’re in our late forties and have been married for 17 years. Get in touch with Deidre Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.
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We are both professional people who work full-time, and I admit that sometimes our sex life falls by the wayside. My husband says he has had this desire for ages, but hasn’t had the courage to talk to me about it. He only managed to tell me after a few drinks.
He suggested getting a mobile male masseur, but I panicked and said I didn’t like the idea of it in our own home. So then he suggested we try a massage parlour somewhere. I flatly refused, saying I wouldn’t be seen dead in such a place.
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