My boyfriend wants to do something for his birthday I have no interest in doing. But it’s his birthday and I want to spend the time with him. He wants to take a gondola up a mountain, go for a three-hour hike, then zip line across a canyon and hike down.
It’s a full day experience which I know he’ll absolutely love. But it’s just not my thing. And there’s no way he’s going to change my mind.
And here’s the catch: the only person who has shown interest in going with him on that day (because he really wants to do it on his birthday, which is a Wednesday this year) is a woman who I’m convinced wants a piece of him. They’re already friends and spend a lot of time together because she’s married to one of his old schoolmates. What do I do? You have to trust your boyfriend.
If you don’t, your relationship isn’t going to last on any level. Do you think he has an interest in this woman? Have you talked to him about it before? If he has already assured you he has no interest in this woman, that he would never do that to his friend, then you need to trust him. But if your inner voice is screaming then you need to follow your gut.
I believe we need to be true to ourselves by following our instincts. Is there a way of joining him on any part of this trek? Could you just go for the gondola ride, or meet him on the other side of the canyon and hike down with him? Making your presence felt may sway this woman to back down, or you may see your concerns are for naught. .