Kelly Stafford knows how hard it can be to be a football wife, but she doesn’t see it being a problem for famous wives and girlfriends in all of sports. The wife of Los Angeles Rams quarterback Matthew Stafford said that Taylor Swift and Brittany Mahomes — girlfriend and wife of Kansas City Chiefs players Travis Kelce and Patrick Mahomes , respectively — have things “pretty settled” in their relationships. “I think they have their things pretty settled and know where they are in life,” Stafford shared with E! News when asked to give the duo some wisdom.

Still, the veteran football wife has been married to a pro for over a decade, and Kelly has learned a few lessons she wishes she could’ve told her younger self. “You’re going to have everyone telling you what you should look like, what you should say and not say, all of these things,” the host of “The Morning After” podcast shared. “And if you start listening, you lose the values and everything you have that makes you who you are, and makes you the person your husband fell in love with.

” Kelly, 35, shares four children with her signal-calling hubby — Sawyer and Chandler, both 7, Hunter, 6, and Tyler, 4. She speaks from experience on the subject of pressure, saying she briefly succumbed to the pressure of all the outside voices commenting on her relationship. “’Don’t try to become the person that everybody else wants you to become,'” Kelly said.

“Because that’s what I did and I lost w.