I went on a date last night for the first time in six months. We found each other on a dating app and started chatting. We’re similar in age (early 50s), both divorced for more than three years and both with teenage children.
Her photos showed an active, attractive woman who looked natural and wholesome. We met at a restaurant, and I was surprised. She was wearing a very sexy, revealing dress and had clearly just had some work done on her face.
Her lips looked as though they would explode on impact (as did her breasts, but they didn’t look new), and her forehead was so smooth and tight, I couldn’t read her expression at all. She was easy enough to talk to and we laughed, but I knew almost immediately she wasn’t my person. Still, it was nice to get out of the house and have adult interaction with someone not involved with my children (teachers, coaches, friends’ parents, etc.
). To my surprise, as dinner started to wind down, she came on to me fairly aggressively in the restaurant. I managed to dial it down, but as soon as we were alone outside, she pushed herself up against me and forcefully kissed me.
I literally had to disentangle myself. I feigned gastro discomfort — always a quick turnoff — and got her into an Uber. What the heck was that all about? Great description, of both your date and your situation.
You’re right — she’s not your person. But as you thought, you could have still enjoyed the date. She obviously had other things on her mind.
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