Welcome to How I Do It , the series in which we give you a seven-day sneak peek into the sex life of a stranger. This week we hear from Austin*, a 39-year-old freelancer from Cardiff , who’s in a long-distance relationship with his girlfriend Laura*. Laura is from Tennessee, and is currently applying for a visa to move to the UK to be nearer to Austin.
The pair have only been together since February 2024, but plan to get married within the next six months, to make it easier for her to secure a visa and move. When they’re together, they have sex at least three times a week. Austin says: ‘When we do finally get to see each other, I get amazing sex with a woman who is always ready for me,’ he says.
‘However, I do find myself losing a bit of interest as I get older, particularly when anxious, irritable or depressed. ‘These are moods I have to juggle a lot recently, especially as visa talk dominates conversation.’ Austin says immigration and legal issues has put their relationship on ‘fast-forward’ and kills the mood somewhat.
He’d like his sex life to be a little more care free. ‘I can get in my own head about things sometimes, such as ‘Are we doing it enough?’ or ‘Am I enjoying it enough?’,’ he explains. ‘I also find my regular low moods make me occasionally lose interest in sex and intimacy, which makes me feel guilty when my girlfriend is always up for it.
’ So, without further ado, here’s how Austin got on this week...
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