Nicola Prentis thought she had given up dating apps for good. After coming across Burned Haystack Dating Method on Facebook — a group with 100,000 members — she's trying again. After a two-and-a-half-year break from the time-suck of dating apps , I reluctantly reinstalled one on my phone a few weeks ago.
But this time, I was determined not to waste hours swiping or replying to any zero-effort "hi, beautiful" messages. The return was inspired by Burned Haystack, a new dating method that encourages daters to filter out time wasters and red flags as soon as possible. Jennie Young, a professor of English and women and gender studies at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay, had grown frustrated while looking for love online .
When she realized it was like looking for a "needle in a haystack," she decided to Google her question: "How do you find a needle in a haystack?" This led her to the answer and, eventually, her method: Burn the haystack. That's what will make spotting the metal needle easy. The method's main idea is to avoid focusing on being broadly appealing and not to try to meet as many men as possible.
It's about being more selective about men and always weighing in on how they communicate. "The reason we immediately block-to-burn men who lead with comments about our appearance or with sexual content has absolutely nothing to do with personal values," Young wrote in a Substack article posted on Facebook in August. Rather, she explains that they are blocked because t.