A bride gave her sister the boot from her wedding after she refused to follow the pre-determined color scheme. The 25-year-old woman has battled her sister for years since they lived under their parents’ roof. “When I was nine, my parents adopted my sister ‘Jen’ who was seven at the time,” the bride explained in a Reddit post.

“Everything Jen wanted, she got.” Looking for outside opinions, the bride took to Reddit’s popular confession forum, Am I The A**hole , and detailed the situation that ensued between her and her sister before the wedding. However, the Redditor thought it best to describe her existing relationship with her sister first.

“When they asked if I would let Jen pick the decorations and cake for my upcoming birthday, I agreed. I was so happy to have a sister, and I understood why my parents gave her special treatment,” she noted, offering context. The Reddit user never put up a fight when her parents insisted Jen could decide what they would do on vacations or for anyone’s birthday.

“If she didn’t get what she wanted, she threw a tantrum,” she noted. Still, the Reddit user felt “loved” by her parents, even if her wishes came second to Jen’s. For years, she spent time trying to avoid her family.

She stayed out of the house and got a job when she was 12. The Reddit user made sure to pass her driver’s test. She attended college on the opposite side of the country.

She was determined to make a life outside of her sister’s shado.