Each week, Dr Kirstin Ferguson tackles questions on workplace, career and leadership in her advice column, “ Got a Minute? ” This week: a painful reminder of infertility at work, travelling with male colleagues and an award switch-up. Everyone is entitled to feel safe at work, but not all guarentees can be met. Credit: Dionne Gain I have a history of failed IVF and multiple miscarriages, and am unable to have children.
My workplace is aware of this. Last week, someone brought their baby into the office, which is fine, but they stayed by my desk for half an hour with the whole office gushing over the baby. I had a panic attack because I felt I couldn’t escape and was overwhelmed with grief.
I told my manager I never wanted to be put in that position again and asked them to ensure baby show-and-tell was not conducted next to me ever again. My manager said they were unable to guarantee my request. Surely, I am entitled to feel safe at my desk? Loading I can’t imagine how painful it is to have the continual reminder of the pain you have endured.
Having that reminder brought right to your desk, a place where you no doubt want to escape the challenges you have had to confront, would have been incredibly overwhelming. I hope you have been able to access support, not just after that event, but for as long as you might need. Yes, you are entitled to feel safe, of course.
The question you have asked prompts me to consider whether it is reasonable to expect your employer to guar.