Kids are often more observant than many adults give them credit for. It’s not just what we say to them directly that they’re absorbing; it’s how we talk about ourselves and others, what we say to others about them and how we behave, too. We asked experts what sorts of things children pick up on that adults don’t always realize they’re noticing.
This list isn’t designed to be judgmental; rather, it’s a reminder that we can all bring a little more awareness to our day-to-day interactions. 1. How you feel about your partner, co-parent or their other caregivers.
You may think you’re being subtle when you roll your eyes at your partner or shoot your father-in-law a dirty look. But kids can catch those nonverbal cues, said clinical psychologist Jazmine McCoy , who goes by @TheMomPsychologist on Instagram. They’re also capable of picking up on criticism or negative remarks about the other parent or caregivers in their life, even when you may try to mask them as jokes or sarcasm, she told HuffPost.
“Kids notice these dynamics, so try your best to speak highly of the other parent and caregivers around your child — even if they’re in another room,” McCoy said. “They probably still can hear you.” This is important regardless of your relationship with these people.
Why? It helps the child feel safe, confident and cared for, more emotionally connected to their caregivers and less anxious, McCoy said. She offered a few examples of the kinds of things you’d w.