While you might think back on your with a healthy dose of nostalgia from time to time, let's be real: The only person who really to know about your hookup history is you, and the only person who should be asking about your body count is...
literally no one! ICYMI, “body count” is a (weird and problematic, tbh!) slang term for the . And although it still gets thrown around in everyday convo, it’s an antiquated concept designed to slut shame women for simply (* *) having sex. Even though our misogynistic society (and ) haven’t quite caught on to the fact that your number is , here’s our official notice: Body count doesn’t matter.
But don’t just take our word for it. According to , only 24 percent of singles said the number of people their partner has slept with matters, while 67 percent of singles don’t have any plans to ask their future partners for a number. As relationship therapist points out, it truly doesn’t explain anything about the person you’re getting to know.
“Relationships are so much more complex,” says Hoggard Wagley. “I think it’s too much focus on someone’s history rather than who they are, with you, in the present moment,” she says. “Such an inquiry can in a relationship in both directions.
It can make people feel judged and it can also cause a lot of comparison. I’m not sure who it helps, honestly.” At the end of the day, no one—not even your current partner—is entitled to know how many people you’ve hooked up with.
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