Q This is a follow-up question to one I asked earlier (March 14). I wrote regarding a big fight I had with my sister who I thought was my bff. It was just after Christmas last year.
A year later, and there’s no change. I’ve heard many things my sister has said about me and our falling out. None true and all very hurtful.
Thus confirming that her love for me was absent much earlier than I realized. It’s all been very shocking to me. I still don’t have any plans, though I thought the goal was to move back to my sister’s area.
It is still so hurtful to realize my sister was and is OK with treating me badly simply because she needs to take out her frustrations on someone. I still stand strong on not accepting less respect and decency than anyone else, but I miss my sister. I’m the younger one and simply don’t know life without her.
But I’d rather she doesn’t pretend to like me. There’ve been so many things that have happened among the family that I wish we could talk about. There have also been some changes in my own life I wish I had my older sister to reach out to.
I should mention she fell ill early in the year, and I did reach out to her, but her quick response was to tell me to leave our relationship be. She has finally allowed some communication between me and her kids. Speaking to my nephews is very bittersweet.
I am heartbroken after each call as it’s clearly too far in the past for them to know me other than the aunt that lives far away and calls on.
